Is there a fate worse than loneliness?

My sister gave birth to baby girl last Friday. That in combination with it being my birthday on the sunday (25th) was a cause for big celebration. My mom and I decided to go and distribute home made sweets to an old age home near our house. While there, we also decided to sponsor the lunch there yesterday.

While the papers were being readied, the manager there showed me around the old age home (it was my first visit, a fact that I now regret since I think I should have gone there much earlier) and introduced me to a some of those who stay in the old age home.

One of the ladies who we spoke to (with the manager as a translator) was very happy to have company. Every smile of the lady was tinged with sadness. Why? Because while we were talking, she revealed that she had a son and two grandsons, all three of who were working in the IT industry.

I was shocked. Rather, disgusted. Here was this lady who has earning sons and grandsons but who is likely considered a burden by them. How can someone take the decision to send their mother to a place where she does not know anyone, where there isn’t anyone to love and take care of her. Why is she even considered a burden?

I felt sad when we came out of the room and left for home again. The only thought in my mind was, what had that lady done to deserve this? Was her fault to have cared for and brought up her children?

During my visit, as we walked, I met a few of the people staying there. And all of them had a smile on their face which showed happiness on seeing me. And this was simply because they had some company, that some one had come to meet them. And seeing those smiles made my day. And it was there that I decided that I must and will do something more to see those smiles again. And I think everyone else should try it too.

Update: Many people have asked me for the address of the old age home. Here it is:

No. 53/7, Bannerghatta Road,
Bangalore – 560 029
Phone: 26784621

(Landmark: Just past Boyancee, opposite BP petrol Bunk)


  1. Swe March 1, 2007

    Hey, next time you visit that place, can i tag along?

  2. AJ March 1, 2007

    Absolutely.. I’ll msg you when I’m going..

  3. Rashmi March 23, 2007

    Parents do such much for their children.They sacrifice their happiness and desires so that their kids can be happy..and those same kids turn out to be ungrateful pigs!!!!Its sad……

    P.S:Can you give me the address of that old age home since me and mom were planning to visit one…..

  4. AJ March 23, 2007

    It’s on Bannerghatta Road, just past Bouyancee. Opposite to the bus stop just before the BP Petrol Bunk

    I don’t have the exact address but will get it from my mom and will put it up here.

  5. Rashmi March 23, 2007


  6. Rajesh Golani April 3, 2007

    I wanted to visit the old age home and googling for that led me to your page… Nice blog.. and thanks for the address.

  7. AJ April 3, 2007

    Thanks :)
    And you are welcome about the address..

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